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Mayor Akinpelu, the Publisher of Global Excellence Magazine, has cautioned Nigerian wives who are in the habit of using the police to evict their husbands from home in Europe and America, especially the UK and USA, to consider home before making rash decisions.
Akinpelu, who was analysing the trending video wherein the UK metropolitan police advised Nigerian wives to take care of their wives on TVC’s Journalists’ Hangout, blamed the trend on peer influence.
He also pointed out that the trend is becoming increasingly common because of the growing empowerment of women in the regions.
According to him: “They believe that, especially when kids are involved, the woman is in a better place to care for them. So, they give up all privileges against the man. It’s worse in America than in the UK.
“When you get to London, or when you get to the UK, you realise that there are a lot of single mothers; the reason is that when you have a problem with your husband, you can call the police.”
Akinpelu noted that men are always at the receiving end.
He said: “The police will tell the husband to move out of the house, and then the woman will start collecting benefits from the government to take care of the kids.
“Sometimes, it’s even better for a woman not to have a husband because she collects a lot of money on each child, and even if she has a child that has health challenges, maybe a Down syndrome or something, she collects more money. So, that’s part of the problem,” he noted, adding that the bias against men has landed many Nigerian men in jail.
“A Nigerian man would leave America to his village in the South-east to pick a wife, believing that the woman is a fresh person, and he doesn’t want to deal with the women in America because they won’t listen to him. Then he takes the lady to America; maybe he is a security man trying to make ends meet, but he decides to send the lady to school. Most nursing schools and the medical profession in America are well-paid, especially nurses. The woman graduates from nursing school and starts earning better than the guy,” Akinpelu added.
“And then when the lady starts attending those cultural associations, maybe Nigerian associations from this state or from that state, they will meet other women. They will say, this is America. Don’t allow any man to tell you anything. This is America. You have every right in this country. And that’s how it works. So when they have issues or issues at any time, the lady calls the police. The police will come and say no matter what happens, they will ask the man to move out before investigating anything. If couples have issues, they ask the man to move out first.
“When the man moves out, if things get serious, the woman can complain that he’s harassing her. They will give the man a restriction order not to be some kilometres around that premises. Meanwhile, the man will continue paying the mortgage for the house they sent him out from.
“So, it gets to a stage where the man gets frustrated and then just kills the woman. It happens a lot in America. The man will just get frustrated and kill the woman. But what I want to say is that Nigerian women in Europe and America should know that no matter how long they stay there or carry the passports of those places, they are not from there.”
He advised women to consider the Nigerian culture in their issues.
“So, the women need to look at Nigeria culture and how we do things. I’m not saying that marriage is perfect in Nigeria, but we have mechanisms to resolve differences between couples. If there is a problem between couples, their family members will come and try to convince you and all that,” he said.
